How to say “NO” and mean it!
Does saying the word NO turn you into a babbling idiot? I am going to give you what I think is a pretty kick ass piece of advice; here goes… feel free to say no without explaining.
Women love to justify their no’s with big long explanations as to why they really don’t want to say no but they have too. As soon as you start explaining yourself, as soon as you start to justify your no you are showing that you’re not comfortable or certain in your decision and you open the opportunity for your no to be changed to a yes.
How many times have you been having a conversation where someone is asking you to do something you don’t want to do. You think you said no, but somehow you have been roped it and you’re not really sure how that happened. I hear it from women all the time, not just in business but in life. You find yourself talked in doing something you just don’t want to do.
So how do you avoid that situation? Here are three tips.
Number 1 – you have to actually use the word no
That might sound strange but something I notice often is women will avoid saying no, they will use talk their way around why they can’t do something when all they had to do was say No.
Number 2 – it’s o.k to not want to do something
Get comfortable with the fact that sometimes you just don’t want to do something you are being asked to do. You can say no when you can’t and you can say no when you just don’t want to.
Number 3 – explanation leaves room for negotiation
When you start to provide excuses it is easy for the other person to find a hole in your story or to provide solution therefore negotiating you into a yes. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone is providing a solution for every roadblock you put in their way. It can be really uncomfortable and eventually you will just say yes.
Be firm in your no. The more you get use to saying no the easier it becomes.!
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